It suddenly dawned on me that people are usually more into being mean and devilish than being nice and polite. All I can think about is why is everyone so mean all the time? Wouldn’t it be easier to behave ourselves and be friendly, calm and relaxed, or at least polite if we really don’t feel like having small talk?
Let me put it some other way: if we don’t want to be kind just because "it’s a nice thing to be nice", we can at least think selfishly… Just making others feel better might eventually make us feel better about ourselves by having the feeling of being nice to another human being. So, at least for this reason and we should be less intentioned to harass and harm other people and more happy to behave civilized and nice.
Why are people so mean, for God’s sake? I sometimes try so hard to understand why so many human beings do find it easier to be critical and mean and hostile, instead of being nice, but I never seem to get to any valid explanation. Maybe because they express their inside furies and frustrations by trying to make others feel lousy too, or maybe because they just don’t care about the way their reactions affect the others or maybe "just like that".
"Why are people mean? Here's the short answer: They're hurt. Here's the long answer: They're really hurt. At some point, somebody—their parents, their lovers, Lady Luck—did them dirty. They were crushed. And they're still afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again.
The fact is that we've all been hurt, and we're all wounded, but not all of us are mean. The moment we begin tolerating meanness, in ourselves or others, we are using our authorial power in the service of wrongdoing. We have both the capacity and the obligation to do better.
Let me put it some other way: if we don’t want to be kind just because "it’s a nice thing to be nice", we can at least think selfishly… Just making others feel better might eventually make us feel better about ourselves by having the feeling of being nice to another human being. So, at least for this reason and we should be less intentioned to harass and harm other people and more happy to behave civilized and nice.
Why are people so mean, for God’s sake? I sometimes try so hard to understand why so many human beings do find it easier to be critical and mean and hostile, instead of being nice, but I never seem to get to any valid explanation. Maybe because they express their inside furies and frustrations by trying to make others feel lousy too, or maybe because they just don’t care about the way their reactions affect the others or maybe "just like that".
"Why are people mean? Here's the short answer: They're hurt. Here's the long answer: They're really hurt. At some point, somebody—their parents, their lovers, Lady Luck—did them dirty. They were crushed. And they're still afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again.
The fact is that we've all been hurt, and we're all wounded, but not all of us are mean. The moment we begin tolerating meanness, in ourselves or others, we are using our authorial power in the service of wrongdoing. We have both the capacity and the obligation to do better.
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